I remember way back in high school when I would make a new friend. We would have a really good conversation and I could tell that it would be fun to hang out again. This would go on for a few weeks and then I would test them. It would be me walking down the hall and I would say "hi" to them. If he or she said "hi" back, we were friends. If the friend said nothing or acted as though I didn't exist, then I knew that I didn't want to continue talking with them. It is the idea of being too embarrassed to talk with me in a public setting.
This has apparently been passed to the real world. I was friends with a girl at work who I had a lot in common. We both watched and read the same things. She was funny and she got my sarcastic humor. So when she moved departments, I said goodbye and hoped to see her around. Well, after she left, she began to ignore me. Not just that, but she would only talk to anyone in my department if she was alone. I wanted to have nothing of this and I pretty much gave up talking to her.
I didn't give any thought about her until today. I was on Facebook and checking up on my friends; looking to see if I could comment on their crazy weekend. That is when I realized that I was no longer Facebook friends with the girl previously mentioned. I was so sad and upset about it; and I don't know why! I knew we weren't real friends outside of work, but I didn't expect her to unfriend me. Why did I expect anything different from her? I guess because she seemed better than that.
What I'm taking away from this? I am going to make a real effort to try and keep in touch with my current friends. I don't want to be the guy who drops friends because I change departments or don't see them as much as I like. I'm making an effort to sit by different people at lunch every day. I say hello people as much as possible and try and take a real interest when people talk to me. Thanks girl-who-switched-departments.
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